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Welcome to managemesystems!

'How do I manage me?' is the question this blog asks; particularly in the area of removing anxiety and other emotional disorders - now and again I look at various other self-improvement ideas because everything helps, doesn't it?

Why I Created this Blog

I'm more willing to do a difficult thing if I can see a way to bring some good into the world as a result of doing it - and healing from my emotional disorders is probably the most difficult thing I've ever done.  I knew before I even got better if I succeeded I was going to write about it for the benefit of other people.

I like thinking in terms of 'idea seeds'; quite often we pick up a bit of information which has no real meaning at the time but later on it blooms into a whole new viewpoint.    You don't need to agree with everything I say or offer on the blog - each of us has to find their own way to happiness - but the 'seeds' I offer may be enough to get you started.

From ages 21 to about 44  (I'm now 51) I struggled to cope with 27 obsessions; 14 phobias, panic attacks and depression.  I didn't know I had that many disorders until I started to remove them - I'd get rid of one and another would appear.  Quite often I had so many feelings at the same time I didn't know which came first; some of my feelings I couldn't even 'name'.  I'd be right in the middle of a feeling thinking 'is this an emotional or a physical illness?'.

'Tell me what to do and I'll do it' I used to say to the professionals - despite the sound of tumbleweed rolling on by.  They were caring, but they weren't always sharing!

Prior to learning how to remove my conditions myself I spent roughly 5 years trying out different approaches to healing (including hypnotherapy) without success, but then read a short article on Exposure Therapy which explained it was an almost guaranteed approach but was also a painful, long-term strategy to be used as a last resort.  For me it was a last resort situation and, thankfully, I started to notice a difference within a few weeks.   I felt worse!    By this point, however, anything 'different' was welcome and even 'worse' meant something was changing.

The panic attacks intensified to such a point I now started experiencing the 'Disassociation Response', a surreal but absolutely normal experience for people with anxiety problems.  It was obvious I needed a 'support platform'  of some kind, and I began to build one starting with my doctors.

My doctors referred me for the help of a psychiatrist (who put me on the lowest possible dose of Prozac you can have) while I also started seeing a Person Centred Counsellor.  I tried 3 counsellors until I found one I gelled with properly.  While occasionally I would get a sudden insight from working with these folks they mostly acted like 'milestone markers' for me as I continued to work on healing myself and I reported to them on my progress.

Within a year I amazed the psychiatrist by clearing most of what he had diagnosed as 'complex OCD'.  It took several more years of 'going in to the out of' - which is what I called my inner work; but I eventually cleared all my disorders.   During healing I did quite a bit of study and took careful notes as I 'reversed' my inner world.   I found the insights I had picked up could help put a smile on the faces of others who were stuck in the same self-critical habits, due to the same lack of understanding, I once had.

If you read the posts on my blog you will find I have an unusual inside-out view of healing emotional problems - not everyone likes the messages I share; especially the message that pretty much any emotional problem can be healed if you're willing to do the work.  I know where they're coming from - I used to live there myself.

What do you want to see on this blog?  Would you like to contribute in any way?  Please let me know by using the ‘Feedback’ tab up on the left hand side of the page – or mail me directly at carl@managemesystems.com (alternatively you could leave a comment on one of the posts).

Thanks for reading!

Carl

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