You Can Cope with Anything Until It Kills You and If It Does You’ll Cope with That Too - and so will everybody else

Worrying is an automatic process caused by the Unconscious where we’ve attached a lot of emotional energy to some potential negative life event.

The message we’ve given ourselves is ‘I couldn’t cope!  I couldn’t cope!  I couldn’t cope!’ and it keeps churning away inside.

Trouble is we have limited control of what happens in life when it comes to nasty surprises so our Unconscious tries to keep us negatively motivated and pre-prepared in the belief that being hyper-vigilant will give us an advantage and we may just manage to outwit reality.

It doesn’t.  It just ruins the journey of life.

To undo worrying and get rid of your repeating negative emotions either take some time out alone or talk to others and go into the scenarios underlying the immediate worrying thoughts.  Feel how you’d feel if the worst happened.  I’m not talking about just touch on the feelings and jump back - I’m talking about really going into the feelings and FEEEEEELLLL for as long as it takes.  Then you’ll see yourself come out of it and this teaches your Unconscious you actually would cope.

This releases the energy attached to your worrying thoughts - your mind is full of horrible thoughts you could be thinking about but the only ones coming up into Conscious attention are those you have emotional energy attached to - feel the energy out and the horrible thoughts disappear.

Once you’ve done this enough times worrying stops.  If you won’t do this for yourself then you’re not taking proper care of yourself - I know what this feels like because I used to have the same problem and it made me seriously emotionally ill. 

You would cope and you are coping but worrying makes it 100 times worse.  Sure, you’d have a horrible time while you coped if the thing really was to happen but by worrying you’re coping over and over again and it hasn’t even happened yet! 

The newspapers are full of negative life events showing us worst case scenarios - but they also show those who survived and those who coped with those events too.  YOU WOULD COPE!  and if you didn’t you wouldn’t care anyway.

But your Unconscious won’t believe it until it sees it so you have to spend time ‘going in’ to show it you would cope by spending time with the imagined event and the horrible feelings you release.

Then one day the Unconscious realises you would actually cope and stops trying to warn you about it.

You CAN cope with going through this process - if you’re willing to do the work.

You can cope with anything.

Regards - Carl